I’ve been talking about those stereotypical attitude each and every one of us face in one way or the other; and I can imagine someone thinking that I’ve been working on this matter a bit too much, and I would understand. I just feel like someone needs to take the responsibility and voice out what we do not feel comfortable with, as generation, as people and especially as young people. I also do it for myself, because I’m a young woman who needs to reach that level of awareness that is needed to survive without too much pain the troubles of the world.
I went to church on Sunday and I was having a chat with my youth brothers. We were talking about education and how some parents see in some choices of study absolute nonsense.
It’s true that some parents have poor respect for what a son/daughter might want to study and they seems sometimes so eagerly over-pressing their child to be a doctor, a lawyer or something in the business field. You can’t be a nurse because if you want to study a medicine related course, then you (might) want to study proper medicine, so you have to want to be a doctor! You can be an accountant but make sure you have a side course, so let say accounting and financial management! You can be a lawyer but you want to be that kind of lawyer that goes to court, otherwise please do something proper with your life!
It’s true that some parents might sometimes have poor respect for one’s choice, however it’s also true that the unknown can perhaps be scary and different, the kind of different we don’t feel comfortable with because we don’t like, although we have never tried it before.
A great amount of parents had no educational opportunities while growing up and therefore, sometimes, they commit the imprudence of making their dreams our very own, putting on our shoulders a burden we do not want to carry.
My parents are civil servants and they both own a secondary school qualification they have never used to get further education. My mother always tells me how bright she was and how she would have loved to go to university but had to throw in the bin the dream and keep it real and help my grandmother raise five kids.
I studied General Science in secondary school and I was expected to pursuit a scientific path, but during these years in school I eventually discovered Humanities to be my path. The place where I come from had a very poor respect for Arts subjects, so when I made my family aware of my choice you can imagine. I explain to my parents the how and the why I wanted to do History and Archaeology and what a disaster I would be in other subjects.
My choice scared them, they feared because they did not know what this course of study has in it; they perhaps feared that all the hardworking they have been doing to provide me with the opportunity to pursuit a higher education level would have gone wasted because I didn’t want to become a doctor.
I think knowledge comes when you make yourself available to know or when you are introduced to what you don’t know, by the same token therefore, I believe that parents would have more consideration for their children’s choices if given the chance to know.